Care for him!!!

Posted on: 19/03/2012

Every woman has heard the phrase “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, while for some men that could open the door, it isn’t necessarily what keeps you there. What keeps you in a man’s heart is what you do after you have proven your culinary skills. What is that thing you can do that you man can’t get elsewhere? That one thing that when he remembers it in the middle of the day it makes him smile. Think hard, you have it. It doesn’t have to be anything big. For example, someone once said “I love my girlfriend; she doesn’t allow herself to be forgotten.” I went ahead to ask him what that special thing she does is, and he explained how he always woke up to a text message making sure he had a good night’s rest and wishing him a blessed day. She’d call him at lunch time to be sure of EXACTLY what he ate and then at night they talk on phone at length about each other’s day.

It’s not about being in his face all the time; it’s about doing those little things that are usually neglected. Even little things like helping him pick out his outfits. The way women get tired of having to think of everything themselves it’s the same way the men crave a women who can pamper them without being pests. He’s watching a football match on a Sunday evening and screaming his head off with each goal, rather than sit around and complain about the noise, sit in a corner, looking subtly sexy and pretend read a book…I don’t know the outcome of that but I think it’s worth a try.

For the married ones, no matter how unkempt a man is, he always appreciates a clean home, well cooked meal and most of all nice neat looking kids. There is nothing as irritating as coming home after a long hard day to pandemonium. Filthy kids bouncing off walls, you are yet to start dinner. Makes a man wanna stay out longer. For women that work it’s a little bit more difficult but it makes him appreciate you more when you can pull it off. Cook on the weekends and store. Get home, pop something in the microwave and attend to your kids while you are doing that. Glance round and make sure the house is neat and smells nice. Let dinner be ready and waiting when he gets back or at least let him not have to wait long. That way while he’s catching up with the kids you are serving. I know you are probably exhausted but you can sleep after your job is done. Always remember that you first responsibility is being a knock out wife and mother. Everything else is secondary.

New wives please remember that the ring doesn’t signify that you should change your methods. If nothing else you need to improve on them. Try to exercise more, make sure you are always groomed. A friend of mine said a few nights ago, marriage is not an excuse to resurrect your hair net…lol. All in all don’t let the caring stop because you got the man, that’s where the other woman has a leg up on wives. The other woman knows that she has to work to maintain her position as number 2 because it is constantly being threatened by other hawks, so she takes amazing care of herself. Good hair and nails, clean home, lovely dress sense. She always finds new ways to make him wish he had picked her so you should always find new ways to make him realise he made the best decision by picking you instead. By caring for yourself you are caring for your man.

Go out of your way to make him comfortable. With this new women empowerment craze, most women are forgetting their primary responsibilities. Personally I think eating dinner is very bad for you unless you’re having salad or fruits; but I have no intention of starving my husband just because I have the eating habit of a bird. I don’t advice you to encourage him to keep eating “swallow” for dinner, but you shouldn’t starve him because you are trying to force him to watch his weight or because you are lazy.

Another thing is cooking. It is very important for a man to see his wife cooking or know that she made that food he is eating. I don’t understand this need young brides have for chefs. How hard can it possible be to make a meal for 2?

Last but certainly not least, love his family. Nothing gets to a man’s heart like a woman who loves his family no matter how dysfunctional they may be. You don’t have to be stupid but you should be diplomatic in resolving disputes if any. Treat his mother like you would treat your own and love his sisters even if most times you might want to run them over with a car.

Relationships are not easy at all, but we strive to make them less difficult.


2 Responses to "Care for him!!!"

Well my dear writter, I personally do not see anything wrong in having a chef as a newly married woman. Trust me, cooking for 2 can still be stressful if u have a demanding husband. For example, my husband won’t eat anything that comes out of the fridge, in otherwards, everyday is market day. It can be a little stressful expecially if there’s also a 9-5 job in the picture. Honestly, I pray for the first signs of pregnancy to use as an excuse to get a chef. I will prefer to look pretty serving his dinner than look haggered preparing it. (lazy me…lol)

hmmm… well written… I agree with you but it is not easy… hmmm food for thought.

lol @ mary’s comment

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