Our Type

Posted on: 29/11/2011

Most guys and girls have a specific type of person they are attracted to. Some stick to the traditional tall, dark and handsome; some are into nerds. Some girls are all about the money while some, people like me, are all about the way a guy carries himself. Let me give you a brief description of my “spec” as we call it in Babylon (Portharcourt).

He’s handsome, not necessarily in the way that every girl will appreciate. I like my men a little rough around the edges but at the same time well-groomed. I’m not particular about height as long as he isn’t skinny. I’m not particular about riches as long as he is mobile, isn’t feeding from hand to mouth and doesn’t expect me to cater for him. I dislike softies….i like a challenge. I don’t like a community man (everyone knows where he’s been). I don’t like the crowd pleaser…in fact the more people dislike you the more attracted I am….lol…there’s a lot more that constitutes “my type” but in my 20+ years I’ve come to realise that dating that type doesn’t work out.

I have a lot of friends and I realise that most people make the mistake of dating the same guy in a different skin. If you like a certain type and you have been sticking to that type over the years without success, now is the time to change it. I have decided to take a bold step and change my spec, or better still not have a spec at all. Maybe I’ll end up with a nerd, or a crier. You never know who will love you for life. Most times we complain about the ones we love not loving us back. Have you ever thought that maybe….just maybe it would be a good idea to give the ones that love us a chance? That dude in your office that never irons his shirt and tells awful jokes. Your best friend’s baby sister that you watched as they changed her diapers; or that dude that lives on your street that you never see without a book. Sometimes our life partners are right under our noses and rather than reach out and grab them, we spend precious time analysing and re-analysing all the possible reasons our other relationships never work.

This week let’s all try something new. Why not accept to go on that coffee date, or see that girl as a little more than a booty call, or that dude as a little bit more than an ATM. It’ll amaze us what we can see once we look beyond the surface. I’m not assuring you that the nerd will turn out to be exciting o…but it’ll be fun to try. If nothing else at least you’ll get a good laugh out of it. But it’s time to step out of our comfort zones and try a new “spec”.

Dear Nerd,

Wanna do lunch on Wednesday?




5 Responses to "Our Type"

Lunch where? Very interested 😀

Lunch sounds great

In my opinion, I used to have specs till specs became nothing but objects of desire. My specs used to have specific attributes; skin colour, weight, height, face, even catchment area etc. Now I know better. I have no spec, I want a woman I’ll derive joy living with, catering to and for, pleasing, loving, thinking about and missing.

hhhmmmmmm the Mentalist……where r u biko?

Hahahahaha!!! I am anywhere you want me to be.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s


  • None
  • livelytwist: Interesting topic that we need to come to terms with. As you pointed out, " matter how much you miss your past, there’s a reason you left in th
  • angelsbeauty: Word!
  • Bee: Spot on 👌


%d bloggers like this: